Courage, Determination & Belief: #NativeAmerican Style

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3 thoughts on “Courage, Determination & Belief: #NativeAmerican Style

  1. I really respect the spirituality of your blog. Just an idea for a blog piece, a native American take on the phenomenon of autism. Just did a quick Google and found this: http://nativeamericancolombe.blogspot.co.uk/2009/02/autism-native-american-lakota.html

    Myself and my two daughters have autism. I believe autism could well be evolution’s answer to the way society is going: corruption, greed, deviousness etc. We are honest souls, we believe in right and wrong, justice and we feel deeply.

    Keep up the poetry, it’s really special.

    • My son was diagnosed at thirteen with Asperger’s. He had struggled tremendously after going to middle school at age 11. Bullying was an intense problem as well as the dismissiveness of staff, and exactly as mentioned in your comments elsewhere on articles: the school staff (principal and psychologist) said it was a home issue, but after a school day of bullying and occasional physical assaults, anxiety and depression was acted out at home.

      As he grew up, in family, with other tribe members and natives we’d met, my son never had any problems because if he didn’t understand something, even if I was working, someone else took the time with him. There was never any insults or mockery, as everyone is just different and progress at their own rate. This was a huge contrast to “western society” and non-natives. Culture clash.

      Times have been tough lately though my son has progressed, as meeting new people, ones who think they “know best” and give advice or try to tell you what you should do or what they would even though they don’t have kids at all, let along Asperger’s or those autistic is very hurtful. Even when you respectfully reject their “advice”, they can them become hostile, so you are not just fighting people who don’t know you, but those who think they know you.

      The lack of understanding and empathy is incredible, but especially when they say things like you’re not strong enough to discipline and force your child to “act normal”, when they have no idea how hard, how long and often minute by minute you have to fight for your child.

      Thanks for reading some of my work and taking the time to comment. At this particular moment, I really appreciate your doing so especially, as times are rough as they can sometimes be, and when people who are supposedly your friends or were, don’t understand when and why you absolutely have to focus on your child first, even though my son is seventeen.

      • Your son has suffered what so many ASC children suffer. As his parent, you of course have (almost inevitably because of how state services are) been victim to the blame culture. It’s bad enough that so-called services have this culture, but when people you know personally, especially family, show disapproval it makes an already very tough road even tougher. I’ve read of a lot of parents of ASC children struggling with family denial and disapproval. Until you walk in someone’s shoes you have no idea, but there are so many judgmental people out there. It’s kind of ironic, because those on the autistic spectrum are supposedly the ones lacking in empathy! You might like to read up on the “Intense World Theory” of autism if you haven’t already. You might also be interested in the spiritual side of autism (just found this: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/pantheon/2012/01/the-spiritual-component-of-autism/) as autism (including Asperger’s) has been viewed as shamanism by some native peoples.

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