It has been said by a certain individual that I inexplicably„Disappeared. Cut contact with all former friends.“
I have not disappeared. I have been working at one particular location for three years which hasn’t changed, and continue going about my life in Berlin as I always have, plus the addition of my son. I have continued interaction with mutual friends and others with whom I have a personal affinity, understanding and/or like. I have continued my professional pursues, as well as undertaken another degree, which is very time intensive.
These two statements above are perfect examples of how someone can create and spread bias and „false truths“ based on their own limited perspective, personal interest or lack of responsibility of their actions.
For several months of 2014, actively from May until October, following a few unacceptable incidents regarding misunderstood information, attempts to control and some very skewed actions and negatives comments about my son, I was the focus of intense vehement verbal abuse, bullying, harassment and slander by this former friend. At that time, despite attempting to rectify the situation with the help of a voluntary mediator, I continued to receive slurs, taunts and insults to the point I cut all personal ties and contact with this person, blocked my phone and especially any SMS messages because of the spam level amounts.
However, for whatever reasons they may have felt reasonable, they continued to slander my name, lying and creating fantasies about my character and actions denigrating me to mutual acquaintances as well as potential business partners. The latter can prosecutable due to the fact their slander could effect my financial and economic status through lost projects, and my professional reputation, and in some cases did.
At the end of 2014, I again attempted to arrange a meeting to rectify the situation with the voluntary assistance of a mediator and was ignored and unacknowledged. I moved on, yet still continue to receive information they continue the spread misinformation about me.
I was raised that you do not disrespect older people by contradicting them, arguing with or disrespecting them in word or deed, even if you may not agree. I was also raised that you did not backstab or lie about other people, and you listen when someone tries to talk to you. I believe I was remiss in not directly addressing their lies and behavior as they were initially occurring, but I was raised to try to keep peace, not make trouble and there were more important things in my life to deal with than someone’s personal pique when I had repeatedly and reasonably addressed them.
Having been separated for my son for almost three years, 2014 was a monumental year for us to be together again, with all the difficulties family reunification can have in Germany when you are a foreigner. Being homeless for two and a half months October through mid December was also extremely difficult, and we are still recovering from that trauma with my focus on creating a stable home with my son who struggles with Asperger’s Syndrome, and who is foremost in my life and mind, as any reasonable person should understand and respect.